“Remember that people are only guests in your story – the same way you are only a guest in theirs – so make the chapters worth reading.” ― Lauren Klarfeld
On this day of awareness, may we all be reminded that grief does not stop. It is not given a time limit, nor does it pass. It is something many people live with each and every day – and each person carries it differently. No two paths are the same, even if they are similar or like in some ways.
Grief is not only related to death. It encompasses loss of all kinds – relationships, friendships, work, self.
Never underestimate or disregard the enormity of someone’s grief. Be compassionate, be tolerant. We can’t always see the cross another carries, but we can always practice kindness.
“The reality is that you will grieve forever. You will not ‘get over’ the loss of a loved one; you’ll learn to live with it. You will heal and you will rebuild yourself around the loss you have suffered. You will be whole again but you will never be the same. Nor should you be the same nor would you want to.” — Elisabeth Kubler-Ross
You’re exhausted, aren’t you?
Sometimes we need to let go, and that’s not easy.
We need to remind ourselves, when we travel down memory lane, that we made every effort and acknowledge the fact that if the other person cared, s/he would be reaching out.
But they’re not. And maybe they can’t, or won’t, because they wanted it to end – yet didn’t have the courage to own up to that.
So stop beating yourself up. Stop wishing and praying. And see things as they are.
It won’t be easy, but each time you want and wish remember – if they wanted to be with you, they’d be here. Simple as that.
Accept, let go, and move on. You deserve to be free, and find contentment.
Writing for a number of online publications, one in particular that scores pieces based on hearts, shares, and comments, I’d noticed that my articles on gratitude, self-development and life in general didn’t rate that high.
Thankfully, scoring has never mattered to me. I didn’t even know that was the case when I penned my first piece – until I won first place on the Ecosystem with an unexpected monetary payout, a wonderful surprise that absolutely felt terrific.Continue reading “The lonely hearts club.”
Just shy of two years ago, I committed to this blog and posted my first daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.
It was about a neighbor who isn’t aware of the impact he has on our lives. He is a staple in our neighborhood and when the nice weather arrives, if he’s not sitting outside in his comfy chair, taking in the fresh air, the day is not the same. When we walk or drive by, his wave is filled with warmth and friendliness. We have come to depend on him to lift our spirits and bring a smile to our faces.Continue reading “Little losses. Big impact.”
My forever friend, Barbara, life is not the same without you. I keep waiting for you to text, call, come back. Still haven’t figured out how to live without you.
“What we have once enjoyed we can never lose; all that we deeply love becomes a part of us.” — Helen Keller
The quote of the day is you. Happy birthday. We will always celebrate you. Each and every day. Forever.
In honor of my late grandmother, Jeanne Gray Kisker. I love and miss you every day, always. Happy birthday in heaven, Ma.
“The bad news is that you never completely get over the loss of your beloved. But this is also the good news. They live forever in your broken heart that doesn’t seal back up. And you come through. It’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly—that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.”
“If you are a card-carrying human being, chances are that you share the same fear as all other humans: the fear of losing love, respect and connection to others. And if you are human, in order to avoid or prevent the pain, trauma and perceived devastation of the loss, you will do anything to avoid your greatest fear from being visited on you.” – Iyanla Vanzant