Had you ever stopped to consider – we’re part of the problem?

Countless times I’ve proclaimed that I’m considering removing myself from Facebook. I have a blog account – keep. I’m opening a charitable account soon – keep. But the personal social account is fraught with conflicting emotions.

What value does it bring to my life?

I live for the dog posts. I look forward to the family and friend posts. Yet I recall how many years I lived without Facebook – and other social channels. Those were great times and memories of a time when I was completely engrossed in life – not recording it, documenting it, or scrolling it while I was physically present with others. Continue reading “Had you ever stopped to consider – we’re part of the problem?”

Your daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.

Daily thought: Some days are just tough. Not a life altering difficult, but a daily hassle, easily irritable, low feeling day.

Point to ponder: No matter how hard we try, some days we’re just down and out. Sometimes we suppress what we’re feeling because we know someone else is going through much worse. We feel guilty for our despondent mood, yet despite our attempts to quell the feelings, they don’t go away.

Soulful reflection: I’ve often found on those dark days, we are sent a reminder or a sign that all is well. A text from an old friend. A positive reminder that we are on the right track. A small victory or forward progress on a project that we’re invested in.

One of my favorite and most moving songs is “Angels Among Us“, a song I’ve posted in the past, complete with lyrics. It is a song that evokes smiles, and brings forth tears. I’ll be sure to post again at the end of this reflection.

Today was one of those days for me. I am flooded with gratitude, appreciative beyond what words could express, yet still found myself struggling just a bit. From my perspective, I’m privileged and spoiled, not in a rotten way – and may I never feel differently. When one  loses sight of that, they grow entitled and selfish.

As I worked this evening while wallowing in my angst, a text from a friend lit up my phone. It was more than a text – it was filled with friendship, wonderful memories, and genuine love and comfort. The irony was, my friend had no way of knowing how much I needed that tonight. How much that text shifted today’s mood and perspective.

Friend, if you’re reading this post – thank you for brightening my day, and recharging the ‘happy’ in my heart.

On some days, the signs aren’t so obvious. But I guarantee if you pay attention, you’ll find them.

As I close this post, I leave you with the lyrics from a song that holds a special place in my heart. May you share my fondness, and share a smile as you shed that tear.

Angels Among Us 

I was walkin’ home from school on a cold winter day
Took a shortcut through the woods, and I lost my way
It was gettin’ late, and I was scared and alone
But then a kind old man took my hand and led me home
Mama couldn’t see him, but he was standin’ there
And I knew in my heart, he was the answer to my prayers
Oh I believe there are angels among us
Sent down to us from somewhere up above
They come to you and me in our darkest hours
To show us how to live, to teach us how to give
To guide us with the light of love
When life held troubled times, and had me down on my knees
There’s always been someone there to come along and comfort me
A kind word from a stranger, to lend a helpin’ hand
A phone call from a friend, just to say I understand
And ain’t it kind of funny that at the dark end of the road
Someone lights the way with just a single ray of hope
Oh I believe there are angels among us
Sent down to us from somewhere up above
They come to you and me in our darkest hours
To show us how to live, to teach us how to give
To guide us with the light of love
They wear so many faces; show up in the strangest places
To grace us with their mercy, in our time of need
Oh I believe there are angels among us
Sent down to us from somewhere up above
They come to you and me in our darkest hours
To show us how to live, to teach us how to give
To guide us with the light of love
To guide us with the light of love

Your daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.

Daily thought: We have no way of knowing what people are going through, so be kind.

Point to ponder: We hear that said all the time and see the memes and quotes on social channels. But do we really put that into action? Or are we only caught up in our own trials and tribulations, forgetting that other people have troubles, too?

Soulful reflection: It’s not always easy to be kind and it can take extra effort sometimes, especially when we are dealing with our own problems or managing our own emotions. We have moods, ups and downs and daily hassles as well as major life crises.

Truth is, it’s at those times when we should be cautious with our words and actions. When we are mindful and self-aware, we should not be looking to lash out at other people – though we do lose it at times, it happens and sometimes it’s both provoked, and maybe even deserved because some people are jerks, no sugarcoating that one – but rather disengage as much as possible from others on those given days. We can recognize the signs within ourselves, then steer clear of as many social interactions as we can. Be honest with family, friends and even co-workers. Let them know it’s a rough day and you may be a bit off kilter. In today’s world, most people will and do understand. Life isn’t stress free for anyone.

So many people I know are enduring hardships right now, from job related worries, financial troubles and relationship strains to the most important of all, illness and/or loss of a loved one.

No matter what we are going through, may we always make an effort to remember that others could be going through the same – or worse. We all have bad days and sometimes, bad periods of time that last for awhile. Yet if we remind ourselves that others are, too, we may just get through the day without causing more damage.  We’re not saints, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.

Love your neighbor today. You might just feel better yourself because you did.

Your daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.

Daily thought: Where has romance gone? What happened to courting, building friendships and lasting love?

Point to ponder: In a society that boasts radical feminism and views masculinity as toxic, do the outnumbered even stand a chance in a cesspool of single people looking for love in all the wrong places?

Soulful reflection: As it goes on a Sunday, I chose the morning music that would accompany my brunch prep. The music has to align with the weather, the day’s plan – or lack thereof – and my current state of mind. Today’s playlist selection was a Classic Country Drive. The country music that my father listened to and loved when I was a child. The music I dreaded and loathed! Oh, how the times change! Age brings with it an appreciation for, what I would now refer to as, one of the finer things in life.

Always the lyrics girl, which is why I choose classical or instrumental when I write, I listened carefully to the words as I moved around the kitchen, singing to my little pooch. As the words registered, I wondered whatever happened to good old fashioned romance – and what the odds are for people finding that needle in the haystack who wonders the same thing.

It seems dating is out, hooking-up is in. Chivalry is dead, feminists are presumed to be the new norm. Gentlemen feel awkward, ladies feel lost. Pecs, abs and restrictive diets with a side of intense workouts are in; a little jiggle when you wiggle and offering more than just tight buns, out.

There was no bigger heartache than those suffered by cowboys and prairie girls. They sing it all too well. Yet I couldn’t help but hear kindness, compassion and genuine love in each song. Sure, they got drunk, broke a thing or two, and cried a lot. But today’s music finds them breaking windows with baseball bats, planning revenge and making sure that self-absorption is top of mind when moving on.

Chemistry is important, connection key, yet I can’t help wondering if people are missing out on so much by not looking deeper – by not seeing the man who would seek to understand your feelings, by not seeing the woman who would walk through fire with you, by not paying attention to – or appreciating – the basic ingredients that create a lasting relationship. Some seem to only go for the frosting on the cake.

For those who have found it, cherish it. For those who want to, reconsider what it is you’re looking for – and take your time finding it.

Your daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.

Daily thought: A relationship is like a plant. If you don’t water and tend to it, it will die but with a some TLC, it can also come back to life.

Point to ponder: Do you take a partner for granted? Do you think once you charm someone into a relationship, you just stop the things you did to woo them? Or simply go back to your life as a single person, throwing them a crumb or two to keep them hanging in?

Soulful reflection: I recall vividly one of many conversations with my partner when we were faced with relationship challenges and my sharing that above daily thought with him. Some of us don’t even need much water or TLC, but the complete lack thereof leaves us to wither, wilt and eventually – die, like the plant.

Ironically, I wasn’t into plants or herbs at that time. I knew the responsibility and consistent care they would require, and I was once too free spirited for such commitment. Yet now I have them, and I witnessed my analogy right here in real time – and had to smile, a bittersweet yet comforting and knowing smile.

I arrived home last night to a wilted and dead-looking basil plant because I’d stayed at my parents home unexpectedly the evening before, thus missed the ritualistic morning watering. How heartbroken I was! In the past, I would have thrown it out. It’s dead. It doesn’t look so good anymore. What’s done is done. But I’m obsessed with my plants and was willing and determined to bring it back to life. It’s a commitment, a choice I make every day to nurture and grow them, not giving up on them because of some dead-looking leaves.

This morning, that basil plant looked like brand new. It was standing tall, robust and healthy in appearance.

If only we would do the same in our relationships. Of course some have to be thrown in the trash, but others – simply need some water, weeding and care enough to repair and flourish over time.

Some throw things away with too easily. Some aren’t willing to put a little work in when things get bumpy. Some just aren’t capable, so they should live plant-free.

But if you are capable, be sure to water where you stand today because the grass is only as green as the one you tend to.