While taking a late night Facebook scroll, I counted six posts within seconds that asked people to ‘please be kind when responding’ to questions that seemed quite sincere in requesting advice.
The people placed trust in an online community, hoping that someone else experienced what they are currently enduring and could offer some words of wisdom.
Repeatedly the plea was made for kindness, asking others to reply in a gentle and compassionate manner.
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“But even with the inspiration of others, it’s understandable that we sometimes think the world’s problems are so big that we can do little to help. On our own, we cannot end wars or wipe out injustice, but the cumulative impact of thousands of small acts of goodness can be bigger than we imagine.” – Queen Elizabeth II, Christmas
“If you find yourself saying ‘But I’m just being honest’, chances are you’ve just been unkind. Honesty doesn’t heal. Empathy does.” – Dan Waldschmidt
“Tenderness and kindness are not signs of weakness and despair, but manifestations of strength and resolution.” ― Kahlil Gibran
On this day of awareness, may we all be reminded that grief does not stop. It is not given a time limit, nor does it pass. It is something many people live with each and every day – and each person carries it differently. No two paths are the same, even if they are similar or like in some ways.
Grief is not only related to death. It encompasses loss of all kinds – relationships, friendships, work, self.
Never underestimate or disregard the enormity of someone’s grief. Be compassionate, be tolerant. We can’t always see the cross another carries, but we can always practice kindness.
“Too often we underestimate the power of a touch, a smile, a kind word, a listening ear, an honest compliment, or the smallest act of caring, all of which have the potential to turn a life around.” – Leo Buscaglia
Daily thought: We have no way of knowing what people are going through, so be kind.
Point to ponder: We hear that said all the time and see the memes and quotes on social channels. But do we really put that into action? Or are we only caught up in our own trials and tribulations, forgetting that other people have troubles, too?
Soulful reflection: It’s not always easy to be kind and it can take extra effort sometimes, especially when we are dealing with our own problems or managing our own emotions. We have moods, ups and downs and daily hassles as well as major life crises.
Truth is, it’s at those times when we should be cautious with our words and actions. When we are mindful and self-aware, we should not be looking to lash out at other people – though we do lose it at times, it happens and sometimes it’s both provoked, and maybe even deserved because some people are jerks, no sugarcoating that one – but rather disengage as much as possible from others on those given days. We can recognize the signs within ourselves, then steer clear of as many social interactions as we can. Be honest with family, friends and even co-workers. Let them know it’s a rough day and you may be a bit off kilter. In today’s world, most people will and do understand. Life isn’t stress free for anyone.
So many people I know are enduring hardships right now, from job related worries, financial troubles and relationship strains to the most important of all, illness and/or loss of a loved one.
No matter what we are going through, may we always make an effort to remember that others could be going through the same – or worse. We all have bad days and sometimes, bad periods of time that last for awhile. Yet if we remind ourselves that others are, too, we may just get through the day without causing more damage. We’re not saints, but that doesn’t mean we shouldn’t try.
Love your neighbor today. You might just feel better yourself because you did.
“This world would be a whole lot better if we just made an effort to be less horrible to one another.” – Elliot Page
“How would your week have been different if you did everything with love and kindness?” – Tina Nies, 40 Day LoveFest for You