Pro-conflicted.

As a writer, I feel compelled to share my viewpoints on the recent overturn of Roe vs. Wade. At the same time, I don’t look forward to the array of emotions that may be thrown my way. The judgment that will come. The unfriending and unfollowing.The rage without possibly even weighing what I’ve said.

But I’m prepared for that because if someone chooses to shut me out because my opinion differs from theirs, or because I have questions and invite discussion, those probably aren’t my people. The reality is, my conservative and liberal friends may all take issue with the thoughts to follow. I hope not.

Quite frankly, I don’t know where to begin.

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Wherever you go, there you are.

We all have our days when we want to run away. A different locale, or a switch in geography that will help us escape – ourselves.

It is true. There are times that a change of scenery affords us just the diversion we need to return back to – ourselves.

As I searched cottages for later this year and into the next, I kept returning to the question why?

Yes, oceanfront sunrises are the best. Yes, falling asleep to the sound of the ocean is perfect. Absolutely perfect.

Yet I couldn’t settle or justify the why.

My darling Vivienne would be tense for a number of days. There would be a lot of effort put into leaving behind what has become my home for a brief period of time. After all, I now have plants and herbs.

And as much as I want to – I don’t.

My weekends in Maine are annual – one with friends, the other with family.

But I’m blessed with a road trip that I can make any day – like today. In an hour, I’m at the ocean. I’m in York. I’m at the Playhouse. I’m a million miles away in my mind, yet an hour from home.

How grateful am I.

Yet my home is my sanctuary. It is not a place I want to escape, but a place I want to spend more time – even if I do work from here. I love my surroundings. I am comforted in my space. I am content, satisfied and – happy.

Wherever I go, there I am.

Create a space and life you don’t want to escape – but rather one you want to retreat to.

Home is wherever your heart is.

Work it, baby.

“Good things happen to those who hustle.” – Anais Nin

No, it was not the quote of the day, and I’m quite certain I haven’t come across this one until today. It made me look twice when I flipped the quote calendar, then piqued my interest.

We’re all familiar with the quote that states, “Good things come to those who wait.” Maybe we didn’t challenge that when our parents or teachers tossed it at every disappointment to come our way yet in hindsight, what a passive statement. It’s a false promise of sorts, not intentional by any means, but it states that if we sit back and do nothing – just wait – good things will happen. Continue reading “Work it, baby.”

Who said woof?

A number of my writings are on the serious and emotional side, the caustic humor of my past subdued – or non-existent. I’m working on that.

But it’s Friday, and I have to share my rewarding evening with you!

Introducing Dainty Dog Delicacies – a canine passion turned hobby, inspired by Miss Vivienne Yorkshire, that seems to be taking off at record speed.

Disclaimer: No – I don’t do cats (yet). Continue reading “Who said woof?”

Sorry, seems to be the hardest word.

I recently saw a meme, quote, or whatever you choose to call it, that hit me right where it hurts.

The words are not verbatim, and I wasn’t able to find it again, but it went something like:

“If she loves me, she’ll text.”

“If he loves me, he’ll text.”

“End of story.”

How distressing!

Can we imagine how many relationships, that may have lasted a lifetime, were stopped short because of something as ridiculous as that – miscommunication, misunderstanding, stubbornness, pride, ego – and stupidity?

It breaks my heart.

If you love and miss someone, say it. Text, call, show up on their doorstep – well, that may be a bit too stalker like. Don’t do that!

But do let it be known. And if you can, if it’s a healthy relationship that just took some wrong turns, work through it together. People are sometimes too quick in giving up. However, be sure you know the difference between giving up – and needing to walk away for valid reasons.

This goes for any relationship – family, friends, wives, husbands, girlfriends and boyfriends.

Don’t be afraid to say, “I’m sorry”, or “I was wrong”. It won’t kill you, but living with the regret just might.

What do you want to read about?

Writing is my passion and has been since I was a child. My mother still has some of the ridiculously imaginative, and silly, letters I’d crafted long ago – along with poems, essays and my first published pieces. Writing has been my one true love and she stood by me, even when I paid her little attention and veered off course.

Two years ago, I committed to this blog and it has adhered to it’s promise: Daily thoughts. Points to ponder. Soulful reflections.

Most posts are not polished or publication worthy. That was never my intention.

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Let your spirit soar.

It’s sad to hear people express fear when it comes to change. It’s even sadder when others try to suppress someone’s growth by viewing change as a negative thing.

Of course we may want to stay the same in specific areas of our life. For example, when it comes to remembering where we came from and staying humble. Or, adherence to our core values and belief systems. More importantly, staying consistent in terms of our actions when it comes to matters of the heart. We should be responsible, dependable and committed when it comes to our loved ones – and honest in our relationships.

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Who are you to judge?

It’s astounding to read the endless opinions on social media. People don’t seem to hold back when they comment – or think twice before doing so. The majority are based on judgment, bias and criticism – and some are quite cruel.

We can all be cynics, filled with skepticism and yes, a little judgmental. None of us are guilt free. It’s human nature – and up to us to rise above, making an effort to be better than that. Sometimes we succeed, sometimes we fail – more often than not.

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Managing your energy when dealing with others.

We have to interact with others. It’s a fact of life. Whether it’s work, school, family or the community at large, we have to do it – even when we don’t like it.

There are people who fuel you, giving you energy and instilling a feeling of euphoria that finds you motivated and inspired.

There are others who drain you, depleting your energy reserves and leaving you exhausted, running on empty.

Then there are those who are steady and calm, no highs or lows. No inspiration or depletion. They just are who they are.

So how can we effectively manage our day when having to deal with a variety of personality types and moods?

Organizing your day can be like creating a recipe to make the ideal meal. A touch of this, a dash of that. Heavy on one ingredient, light on another. When all is cooked, it’s just right.

How does that analogy work in life?

When orchestrating your schedule, people are the ingredients in any day. Aim to manage your energy by knowing which personalities fuel you, and which deplete you – then balance accordingly, sandwiching the energy zappers in between the motivators with a mix of the steady and calm ones in between.

We can’t run away from these people, so we need to take charge of our day and learn how to manage our energy accordingly.

This won’t always be possible. We have no control over the strangers we will encounter during a day, however, we can take as much action as possible to ensure our reactions are rational and reasonable.

Not an easy feat.

Whether it’s people or activities, pay attention to what gives you energy, and what takes it away. Once you recognize this and start to make changes to the things within your control, you will be on your way to creating a more fulfilling life – and experiencing less stressful days.

It’s gay pride month.

If you’re homophobic, please use this month to ask yourself why.

Even if our religious beliefs speak out against homosexual behavior, ask yourself if that’s truly right. Shouldn’t religion be about acceptance, no matter who someone is or who they choose to love? We don’t have to like it, but we don’t have to be against it either. Shouldn’t religion seek to embrace others, not ostracize them in the name of God or another higher power?

Live and let live.

There is a lot of stuff going on today that we may not understand, and maybe we’re not meant to – but we can be compassionate, kind and tolerant.

In celebration of all my gay and lesbian friends, I support you. What a gift your friendship is in my life.