If my memory serves me well, which sometimes isn’t the case these days, I crafted either a blog post or an article with this same title. It was about politics, I believe, while this post is simply about approaching our daily interactions thoughtfully and respectfully.
Yet what proves true is that this title is a timeless and multidimensional statement.
There are countless topics that divide us in today’s world – religion, politics, sex and gender, to name just a few. Add on illegal immigration, crime, and climate change then we create an even more robust stage of controversy. Frankly, people argue about the weather, take pride in treating people rudely, and find it humorous when they belittle others for peer appreciation that must be fueling some ridiculously low sense of self-esteem – or overinflated ego.
Have you ever contemplated a discussion from the perspective of what you have in common with someone rather than where you differ?
Have you ever sought to truly comprehend what someone expressed rather than formulating a response filled with your personal bias, anticipating your moment to project? Actually made an effort to step into their shoes, stir up some empathy that you may not even known you possessed?
We’ve transitioned as a society. We’ve morphed from partisan politicians, and citizens, who debated vehemently then went out for “a drink,” to irrational reactions and exclusion based on personal opinion complemented by quick, unsubstantiated judgment.
If we take some time and make a conscious effort to be honest with ourselves, maybe – just maybe – we can learn to listen to others with the intent to comprehend and understand – then speak, sharing our thoughts, opinions, and perspective rationally and respectfully.
Maybe we can seek out the similarities, rather than focus on our differences, then continue to further explore the topics in discussion.
And maybe if we don’t hold tight to the idea that we have to be right, or fear the risk of opening our minds to opinions that differ from our own, we may just see where the other person is coming from.
If we dare to take a step back and critically evaluate our egos, subconscious bias and prejudice, it’s safe to say that we may consider approaching our discussions – and life – differently.
Do you listen with your heart, mind, and soul? Do you look to find similarities, rather than differences?
Don’t judge others by their politics or religion – these may only make up a quarter of who people are in totality – if that. Seek to uncover the reasons behind their viewpoints. Seek to listen, contemplate, and understand. Consider their upbringing, circumstances, and experiences. There is very little black and white in life.
Only then will we stand the chance to be united – and co-exist together as decent human beings. Most of us set forth with good intentions, and believe we have the good of everyone and everything in mind. We don’t wake-up with malice or evil as our driving agenda – well, some do, but not us.
Work toward unity, not as lip service, but through your efforts and actions every day. Aim to share your viewpoints thoughtfully, and open the minds of others. And lose your edge, your ego or negative attitude. The best gift you can give to yourself – and others – is mastery of your emotions.
We can stand united, even when our viewpoints are divided. It’s up to us and how we treat each other every day.
