Grief.

Today was National Grief Awareness Day and I posted earlier as to what that may entail.

For me?

I work through grief in exhausting ways, pushing to extremes. Volunteering to extremes. Doing anything to extremes.

Yet this is not necessarily a bad thing.

Through productivity and activity, I find peace and solace.

As I befriend dough, stir sauce or shape treats, I work through many issues – feelings and emotions.

Not a bad release, right?

This morning I thought, “I should meditate.”

And I should – and will, however, I can’t see paying for a class to meditate with others vs. meditating on my own.

$25 per class vs. my making a commitment to carve out time to meditate within the comfort of my home. Which would you choose?

How do you manage your grief?

However you do, that works for you. Don’t ever let someone convince you otherwise.

It’s National Grief Awareness Day.

On this day of awareness, may we all be reminded that grief does not stop. It is not given a time limit, nor does it pass. It is something many people live with each and every day – and each person carries it differently. No two paths are the same, even if they are similar or like in some ways.

Grief is not only related to death. It encompasses loss of all kinds – relationships, friendships, work, self.

Never underestimate or disregard the enormity of someone’s grief. Be compassionate, be tolerant. We can’t always see the cross another carries, but we can always practice kindness.

When to say when.

Each of us handle hardships and loss in our own unique way. That way is an amalgam of our values, beliefs, personality traits, past experiences, fears, wants and needs.

Some people run away, looking for any means to escape their confusion and upset, pain and suffering.  Denial or feigned indifference leads them to suppress their emotions, their smile exaggerated and their laughter loud. Their positive spirit leans toward the extreme, as if there is nothing wrong at all. This can be temporary or permanent, a life filled with escapes used as coping mechanisms to quell emotions.  They may live large, overcompensate and avoid any opportunity to be alone with their feelings for the fear this would debilitate them. Continue reading “When to say when.”