The mindful acts of love, patience, and acceptance.

We’ve heard it said often, that love is an action. It’s something that must be put into practice each day; a decision, a commitment.

This doesn’t mean we’re always loving. Quite the opposite. There are many times when we don’t feel loving, or take for granted those we do love.

The same goes for patience. That, too, is an action. It is something we need to be mindful of and put into practice. It’s quite easy to lose our cool, to grow irritated and lash out.

This also applies to acceptance. The saying ‘accept the things you cannot change’ rings true, and people certainly fit into this category.  We must put acceptance into practice,  reminding ourselves regularly that we don’t have control over people and many other things in life.

Love, patience and acceptance. These are mindful acts that we need to consciously put into practice each day. We are not saints. We will be unloving, we will grow impatient; and we will try to fight, or change, the things we won’t accept.

But we have the option to stop in our tracks, stepping on the brakes on and shifting our perspective when we find ourselves veering off course.

We can remind ourselves how it feels to be loved, even when we don’t feel very lovable. We can remind ourselves how it feels when someone is patient with us, even when we have been exceedingly irritating or annoying. And we can remind ourselves how it feels to be accepted, for better or worse, in all of our flawed beauty.

“It doesn’t matter how old you are, there is a little child within who needs love and acceptance.” – Louise Hay




The thank you note. A lost art that we need to bring back.

I never thought of a thank you note being a lost art until out with friends last evening when something sparked this conversation.

Turns out the thank you note has grown antiquated, becoming a collectible today.

Not because that’s the way it should be, but that’s what has become.

Continue reading “The thank you note. A lost art that we need to bring back.”

It’s gay pride month.

If you’re homophobic, please use this month to ask yourself why.

Even if our religious beliefs speak out against homosexual behavior, ask yourself if that’s truly right. Shouldn’t religion be about acceptance, no matter who someone is or who they choose to love? We don’t have to like it, but we don’t have to be against it either. Shouldn’t religion seek to embrace others, not ostracize them in the name of God or another higher power?

Live and let live.

There is a lot of stuff going on today that we may not understand, and maybe we’re not meant to – but we can be compassionate, kind and tolerant.

In celebration of all my gay and lesbian friends, I support you. What a gift your friendship is in my life.

Big boys DO cry.

When I write or work in the evening, background noise is important to me.

If I’m writing, it must be classical, instrumental jazz or Celtic music.  Words distract me. The rhythm and melody must inspire, yet not interrupt.

If I’m working, it can be mood music, as my frontal lobe works relatively well on it’s own and words won’t distract me. Music then motivates me and moves me in a different way.

Sometimes, it’s silence – but is there any such thing? Continue reading “Big boys DO cry.”