Want to have better days? Try not being an a@#!

Someone dear to me shared a story today and it closed with the usual, “Do you see why I am the way I am?  Why I have an attitude?”

No, I can’t empathize with that.

We have attitudes because we choose to have attitudes and we live in a state of perpetual anger because we choose to be angry.

Though I’m sympathetic to what we all go through, I’m not a blamer and I place an enormity of emphasis on personal responsibility, accountability and civility.

More often than not, things don’t go our way and yes, we all have bad days when we handle matters quite poorly. We may lash out, be unkind and act selfishly.

But there’s a difference between a person having a bad day and a person making each day bad.

Our attitudes impact our mental well-being, interactions with others and ultimately, the outcome.

So if you’re constantly having bad days, maybe you should check yourself.

It’s not the world’s job to rise up and meet us. It’s our job to rise up and meet the world.

A simple point to ponder this afternoon.


So many moments of gratitude and joy. You just never know.

I’d forgotten what it was like to have a day off for reasons other than doctors’ appointments or other commitments that required taking vacation time.

But this week I took some days off which allow for an actual vacation – because it blends into the company Thanksgiving break.

Yes I’ve been guilty of checking in to make sure there are no urgent needs and spent some time answering emails – but not too much. This is a huge accomplishment for me. The reason for this good fortune is that other colleagues shared this same idea. Brilliant!

What a luxury to spend a day running errands without angst, not pressured for time. What a joy to do a bit of this and that, to tackle and participate in activities that I don’t get to during a regular work week. I felt like a little kid again!

Has it really been that long since I’ve taken a full week vs. a day here and there or a long weekend? Has it really been that long since I’ve felt unencumbered, unstressed and simply giddy?

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Scrolling, scrolling … why can’t we just keep on scrolling?

Taking a few minutes to unwind with social media, I found myself shaking my head and muttering aloud.

A cute baby picture, smiling and clearly enjoying her moment sitting on the grass in her festive sweater – then the comments.

“Watch out for ticks!” “It’s a bit cold for that baby to be on the ground.” “Bring that baby in!”

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