Bringing the Five C’s into our Daily Lives.

There was a time in my life when I appeared uptight, yet I wasn’t. Well, maybe a little bit but I would say reserved, not uptight. Today I’m as outgoing as ever even though I’m an introvert by nature, a walking paradox.

As down to earth as I am, however, I do believe that there is a time and place for certain things. I also believe in decorum and manners, humility and gratitude. I’m not a fan of obnoxious behavior, rude people, or inappropriate heckling – goes back to time and place. I think we should learn to sit with discomfort, afford ourselves the opportunity to build coping skills and well, grow up. I think boasting on social media about your good deeds comes across as attention seeking rather than promoting the generosity of your heart. And as I follow current events and witness how people on all societal levels speak and act, how they treat each other, I find it rather disheartening.

This is certainly not a holier than thou post. It is not filled with piety or judgment, but rather a perspective based on observations.

What seems to be lacking is civility, courtesy, compassion, communication and collaboration.

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Your daily thought, point to ponder and soulful reflection.

Daily thought: So often we use more words than necessary. Either in conversation or emails, personally or professionally, we flavor our communications with a lot of filler words.

Point to ponder: Do you catch yourself doing this? Or do you not even realize that you do? Next time you write an email or have a conversation, make a mental note. Ask yourself if everything you are about to write, or say, needs to be said? For example, “I was going to send that to you yesterday, but the day got away from me and I was really busy.” Why not, “Thank you for reaching back out. Your information is attached.”

Soulful reflection: We find the need to explain ourselves in excess at times, and more often than not. We feel that we need to explain why we have to say no. We feel that we need to write a novel as to why we need to cancel or postpone plans.

I’ve paid attention to that this year, especially when it comes to work communications. Before I write, or sometimes after when I re-read it and reflect for a moment, I put thought into is it pertinent? Is it necessary? Is it with good intention?

Personally, when I have needed to cancel or reschedule something, I’ve toned down my details. Do they really need to have a play by play of why I am unable to go? Do I need to overexplain and if I feel that I do, why? Do I feel guilty for needing to take care of something else or because I just can’t make it due to ill health or the such? I’ve learned that to say, “Unfortunately, I need to postpone this evening. Something has come up and I will be in touch soon.”, can be enough.

It’s not easy. I think it’s human nature, for most, to want to explain and give reasons, or make excuses.

I struggle with this when telling a story. Maybe it’s the writer in me, but I’m always setting the stage – the who, what, when, where, how and why. By them time I get to the point, I’ve forgotten what in the heck I was even talking about. I’m working on it, but it’s not easy.

Even as I review this – way too many words! Here’s to putting more thought into what we say, and what we don’t say.

As I said ….

Improvement of my communication skills is a continuous endeavor.  Sometimes I succeed, and sometimes I fall short – way short.

The latter is not intentional. It may be a slip of the tongue, nerves that opened my mouth before my head put on the brakes or a professional tone or inflection that is perceived as arrogant, condescending and pompous.  Continue reading “As I said ….”

3 Tips to Help You Disconnect in a 24-hour Virtual World

“Don’t call me, I’ll call you.”

Many of us have tossed that saying around from time to time, most often in humor, but quite possibly with complete conviction.

There have always been those who obsessively called others, those who love to talk – or be heard – on the phone.  Those who need to fill every moment of silence with something – anything – to feel good.

Once upon a lifetime ago, we were only subject to this at home.  Long before cell phones, we had this thing called a landline. Continue reading “3 Tips to Help You Disconnect in a 24-hour Virtual World”