And just like that – it’s 2023!

Ah, the magic of New Year’s Eve, a day and night filled with hope, dreams, and good intentions. We make the time to look back, reflecting upon the past year and measure what went right, and what went wrong. We commit to ceasing our ‘bad’ habits on January 1st, then find ourselves sickened from the leftover Christmas cookies and candy by end of day, disgusted by our ‘lack’ of willpower. 

Then, we shame ourselves. We deem the new year a failure, or even worse deem ourselves failures, and decide to give up before we’ve really even begun. We catapult between extremes, all or nothing, and cannot fathom the thought of moderation, balance, or the journey – versus a destination.

Life is not a destination. It is not to be punctuated by periods or read ‘the end’ until it actually is, ‘the end.’ It is a book to be written, some chapters memorable, and some not quite so. We rack up the chapters in each phase of our life, then start parts II, III, and so on, crafting our stories as we go.

And I admit, New Year’s Eve feels like an oxygen mask when you feel that you’re on your way down, a parachute when you are forced to eject and pray for a safe landing.

But in reality, it is the small changes we make over time that make the biggest difference. It is casting aside our belief that we are either ‘good’ or ‘bad,’ ‘right’ or ‘wrong.’ It is realizing that everything doesn’t change overnight and it’s perfectly acceptable to fall short – when we set the bar so high. When we go to extremes or set unrealistic expectations, there is no winning, but that doesn’t make us losers. It’s makes us human, fallible, and imperfect – beautifully imperfect.

So, you didn’t exercise today. You ate the cookies, drank the wine, and didn’t get dressed. You didn’t get fresh air, forgot to pray, and found your gratitude was a bit cloudy despite your blessings.

Welcome to reality and how most New Year’s days begin. Take off some of the pressure and check back in with yourself in March, when you just might have started some new habits without even noticing and laid to rest some others.

2022 may be behind us – but it’s not the new year that counts, it’s each and every day we wake-up, put our feet on the floor, and vow to make the effort again – and again, and again.

It’s not making the most of today – it’s making the most of every day!

Happy New Year! Wishing you good health, peace, and happiness.



Author: E.M. Murphy

A voracious writer, lifetime learner and eternal seeker who aims to open minds and hearts. Armed with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a NASM Certified Behavior Change Specialist, humanity and humor is at the heart of my writing, reminding us that the key to success will always start with a genuine concern for others while making sure to be true to our authentic selves.

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