My Valentine Wish.

It is so easy for us to get caught up in the commercialization of Valentine’s Day.

Flowers, candy and cards filled with words that give our feelings a voice.  Restaurant reservations a must and all kinds of expensive add-ons appear on the menu – from rose placement on the table, musicians to serenade you with songs of love or a high priced bottle of champagne to toast your love.

If that pops your cork, then by all means, make the most of it, but for some of us, it is just another day that falls on the calendar.  One by which we draw a heart or place an X and an O.

In the beginning of a relationship, I think it is safe to say that we all expect the day acknowledged. Whether with a simple card, a single rose or a small box of chocolates – we long for the person we love to at minimum show us that we are important to them.

Even if they show it every other day, in every other way. 

Yet as our love matures and reality takes precedence, we may come to realize that the love we share with another is so much more than the commercialized holiday Valentine’s Day has become.

We may recognize that it is not about an external display of expected romance, but the day-to-day love that is shared so freely and demonstrated via good morning, mid-day hello and good night texts.  It is that call to say hi.  It is the offer to breakdown holiday decorations and pick-up milk on the way to your place.  It is that person sweetly and kindly disagreeing when you know that you are currently fat according to your standard.  The truth is, maybe they do love you inside and out – and maybe you should, too.

As I was in the throes of getting my Valentine’s Day greetings in order, I vehemently stated to my partner, “Do not get me flowers.” I had said it before and said it again – the first time getting an acknowledgement that would have made a cousin happy (which sparked the conversation), the second time insulting his effort against my requests and the third time taking it as an assault against my desires. Will we meet in the middle this year?

“Valentine’s Day is coming. Don’t send me flowers. Please. They die, they’re messy and an easy, thoughtless gift to fulfill an obligation. I’m happy with you, every day. Please trust in that.”

If you want to bring, give or send flowers, let it be on some random day during a month when it is not commercially expected – maybe June 5th, for no reason at all other than to brighten my day.  And make it daisies.

If you want to share your thoughts, let it be a card on one day in the middle of some month, not commercially expected – maybe October 2nd, for no reason at all other than to brighten my day.

And if you want to plan a night or weekend away filled with roses, musicians and a bottle of champagne – let it be some random weekend when there is no commercial affiliation – maybe September, October or November.   Just because.

That’s my Valentine wish, any day, every day.

Author: E.M. Murphy

A voracious writer, lifetime learner and eternal seeker who aims to open minds and hearts. Armed with a Bachelor of Arts in Psychology and a NASM Certified Behavior Change Specialist, humanity and humor is at the heart of my writing, reminding us that the key to success will always start with a genuine concern for others while making sure to be true to our authentic selves.

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